I was in school last Saturday for a group project meeting. I saw a group of Filipinas with their kids. They were going to attend a service at the Unification Church, which is located near our school. As mentioned in a previous post, the Unification Church is known for a mass wedding held in the Philippines more than a decade ago.
Anyway, the news article below says that there are more Korean men now marrying foreign nationals. It also mentioned the Ministry of Gender Equality’s plan to educate Korean men on what they need to know when marrying foreign nationals.
It has been said that Korean men, especially farmers in rural areas, have difficulty finding a Korean wife. Most women wouldn’t want to live in a farm. In another KT article published in April of this year, I read that only about 12% of Korean men married to foreign women make their living farming or fishing.
The number of Korean men marrying foreign nationals has tripled over the past five years, the Ministry of Gender Equality said Monday, with eight in 100 getting hitched to foreign women last year.
The number of immigrant women increased to about 130,000 this year from 111,834 in 2007 and 86,052 in 2006.
By country, China formed the largest group of foreign wives with some 52,000, including ethnic Korean Chinese. Vietnam came next with 20,942, followed by the Philippines with 7,601, Japan with 5,949 and Taiwan with 2,043.
The ministry plans to expand programs to provide Korean males with information for interracial marriages from November. The ministry will run the programs in cooperation with the Ministry of Justice and regional government offices. Those who seek to marry foreigners can get information on related laws and other preparatory documentation.
Source: More Korean Men Marry Foreign Nationals
i hope the korean government will also educate korean men and their families about the foreign wives’ country and culture. most of the time, the government only focus on educating foreign wives about korean culture but how can their marriage work like that?can we consider that a deliberate disregard of the wife’s roots and nationality?
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I am 100% agree with Cher. A relationship is a give and take in whatever aspect in order to sustain it for both parties. π
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oh, i agree with cher also…i am just lucky my husband explained filipino culture to my in-laws before i arrived (here in korea). i definitely received a very warm welcome… and they treat me well..
i met a pakistani (man) married to a korean woman and he aired his side on how the programs also just orient the foreign spouses regarding the korean culture but not orienting too the korean spouse about what to really expect and do with a foreign spouse (by country and culture).. he said eventhough they’ve been married for 5 years already, the wife still thinks she’s higher than the husband (considering he’s a muslim/from a muslim country), and said he just did the adjusting so they could maintain a good relationship…
In fairness to the Korean government, some Women Centers are offering Vietnamese language and culture classes to the Korean husbands of Vietnamese. I just don’t know if the classes are well-attended. Whatever program the government may come up with, it will still all be up to the individuals I guess.
Questions:
1. Are there cases where foreigners are married to successful Korean men?
2. Are there any differences if a Korean man is married to a more successful foreigner wife? (I mean the in-laws)
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eden: about ur question number 1….of course there are foreigners married to successful Korean men….kkkk…(like me and betchay….and there are a lot more)anyway, one of the things that frustrates me is when i watch shows or documentaries about foreigners married to korean men, most of the time they only show the life of foreign wives married to korean farmers, fishermen, or even ajossi(old man)…..when in fact there are other foreigners married to successful men as well.
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i think it doesnt matter whether you are married to a farmer or a CEO…for as long as you marry not because of financial gain or a way to change your citizenship but of love and respect for each other and his family accepts you as their own then nothing else counts…
“The ministry plans to expand programs to provide Korean males with information for interracial marriages…”
Ummm….if they’re not marrying a white or black person, then it’s not interracial. A Korean marrying a filipino, taiwanese, chinese, japanese, vietnamese. thai, etc. would not be in an interracial marriage. Different cultures/ethnicities, yes. Different race…NO.
I am half black and half white..american girl. I came to Korea and met a Korean man..a few years later we married. I love my Korean husband. π It hasn’t always been easy..a few things got lost in translation but I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world he is my yeosul wang ja…or however you would write it…Magic prince!
ive heard about the attitude problems of the korean men. so they warned me not to just marry a korean because they have this other way of thinking. especially when they are married to a filipina, they seem to be dominating because they are korean. how true is it??
^^ i have a good marriage and my husband’s korean… i’m in charge of all financial matters, budgeting, money… i do almost all household chores except for cleaning the floor… my husband consults me for everything… most of my friends have the same experience… i guess it really depends on why people marry… one thing for sure is you shouldn’t marry for perceived convenience…
i love my husband and his parents… they treat me well, even better than their korean daughters-in-law…
Hi to all. Just want to know the ways on how to have a good first impression from a mother-in-law/father-in-law to be. What are the things i need to do so they’ll like me. My boyfriend’s mom is conservative so he told not wear revealing clothes. I dont know what type of dress or clothes to wear when i go there this April. There’s still a lot of things i need to know and learn about their culture. Im taking it one day at a time but i would still like to get some info/help from you guys since you’re married to Korean men. My boyfriend has a friend who’s also married to a Filipina but we dont see each other often because they live in Pampanga.
Quote from someone…”i think it doesnt matter whether you are married to a farmer or a CEOΓ’β¬Β¦for as long as you marry not because of financial gain or a way to change your citizenship but of love and respect for each other and his family accepts you as their own then nothing else countsΓ’β¬Β¦”
— is there really such a thing??? this is pure baloney. Unless i see someone (married to a korean man) who is financially well (in the Philippines before the marriage), educated with a professional job and aesthetically pleasing filipina, and not forced by their parents or religion ( its a cult for me)..then i will believe that…or another thing, if the korean guy (the groom) is a sure hotshot at least in the standard of korean society. Im sorry if sounded too obnoxious, but my fellow filipinos please wake up. We all know the reason why these korean men (99pct of them) engaged themselves in interracial marriages…because they cant afford a korean wife. Thats the sad fact. Do you think they really love filipinas???? Yeah, and they also love Vietnamese, Thailand, Indonesian, Cambodian, Chinese, Uzbekistans and other women of the 3rd world. If you have seen the movie the “Wedding Campaigners”, you’ll know what i mean.
This may not apply to all, im sure there will be exceptions. But the thing is, even if those exceptions exists (which i doubt), it will still not change the general perception. And im sure those exceptions will not even react to this message (guilt free, so why should they?)
Peace
What’s the big deal then if someone was married to a farmer, fisherman, ajossi, successful,unsuccessful korean man, who can’t afford a korean wife? I certainly give my 100% respect to those ladies who got married with these korean guys, or those ladies from as you said”3rd world countries” getting married with these korean guys, because of their bravery. Ok, let’s accept the fact that most of them don’t feel any love for the first time, but in the long run, i do believed that they will learn to care and love each other. It takes time, but the bottomline is learning to love each other, and that’s so challenging for them.So i absolutely salute these peole.
I, myself is a wife of a korean national.Im a FILIPINO. And Im proud of that.I’m not financially well in the Philippines, but I was educated….and i think being educated means knowing how to respect others. so whatever their reasons why do they marry other nationals, let’s respect that. after all, nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right into our ears. Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong. It is best to be the right person for the one you will be with or love and start from there.
so now i get it. its about their “bravery”. So our government should welcome u then as heroes π You are missing the point my dear.
and u proved yourself just right, there was no love at all before and during these marriages. Love afterward is a different story, but that’s outside the point. I think you are watching too much korean soap operas.
Simply, if you have all the criteria i mentioned, yet you still decided to marry a korean, then i will believe your fairy tales.
“and i think being educated means knowing how to respect others”– i agree, but please this is not what i mean. If you are really educated as you claim, i dont need to explain. Read carefully.
Besides, im not disrespecting anyone..i am just expressing my thoughts freely, in the same way that you are defending and expressing your delusions.
“Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong. It is best to be the right person for the one you will be with or love and start from there. “– My head is already bleeding, but still i cant figure out what you mean by these sentences??? Sorry for the sarcasm.
You are missing entirely the whole point. My sentence is a reaction to a quote made by someone, and now ur putting it out of context. Stay on with the topic.
tc
arvinsign: indeed, there are exceptions…..but i must admit the exceptions you are looking for is quite hard to find.
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to arvinsign: I don’t need to explain myself to you.there are some people in this blog who know me personally and its up to them to judge me,(“and u proved yourself just right, there was no love at all before and during these marriages.”Simply, if you have all the criteria i mentioned, yet you still decided to marry a korean, then i will believe your fairy tales” ) so better watch out your words because they just might silently laughing at you.^^I am not speaking for myself, I am contented for what I am.I am just speaking for others who are silently hurt from the words of others.
“so now i get it. its about their Γ’β¬ΕbraveryΓ’β¬Β. So our government should welcome u then as heroes ” We don’t need to be welcome as heroes. we just want respect from others.
“My head is already bleeding, but still i cant figure out what you mean by these sentences??? Sorry for the sarcasm.”
why are you so bitter? are you loveless? yeah, you are right. you will never get my point because i guess you never experience what I am trying to point out.
could you do me a favor?after reading this, i want you to go infront of the mirror and reflect about you self.^^
to cher: Yes i am firm to that. Indeed there are exceptions, i have seen very few of them actually. You may be one of them i think π
to anne:
First, dont be too sensitive. Emotions distracts the intellect. This is just a forum. Nobody really cares about what i think and what you think.
“I donΓ’β¬β’t need to explain myself to you”- i didnt asked you, did i?
“there are some people in this blog who know me personally and its up to them to judge me”– You know, i dnt even know you. That means i dont care. What i said is a perceived general public conviction.
“so better watch out your words because they just might silently laughing at you.”- laughing at me? for what? you’re making me smile. The fact is, you cannot please all people, and the truth almost always hurts.
“I am just speaking for others who are silently hurt from the words of others.”- If what i said is wrong, then crucify me, if that will please you.
“We donΓ’β¬β’t need to be welcome as heroes. we just want respect from others.”– I cant believe you will interpret this literally. Read between the lines. And again, i am not disrespecting anyone, i am just explaining the situation as widely perceived.
“why are you so bitter? are you loveless? yeah, you are right. you will never get my point because i guess you never experience what I am trying to point out.”
– Again you are reading and interpreting my sentences wrongly. Im fond of using metaphors in my rhetorics, so please dont be too literal. Burn some neurons.
“could you do me a favor?after reading this, i want you to go infront of the mirror and reflect about you self.^^”
– do i need to do this on a may day eve? π btw the point is?
Anne dont be too naive. This is a social issue. I am not personally attacking anyone.
If you can get 100 super sensitive people like you to hate me just because im giving my opinion, then so be it. You are just as guilty as them (including those whom u said silently laughing at me π .
I can get ten thousand more who knows that what im saying is true (and this includes those people who are exceptions as i mentioned).
There is nothing wrong with marrying a Korean. Poverty drove many Filipinas to marry these korean losers (with few exceptions of course). I have nothing against these inter racial unions. What i am against at are these arranged marriages with no solid emotional foundation, hoping that things “might” get better anyway in the long run. Gets?
to arvinsign:
i know some Filipinas who married Korean men via matchmakers (via my CFO seminar), and we’ve kept in touch. it’s surprising to hear from them that their husbands really take care of them and the Korean families accept them with loving and open arms. some even dont need to lift a finger in their homes since the in-laws really take care of them.
they now also admit that they’ve fallen in love, really hard, for their husbands.
it’s not that Koreans can’t afford a Korean for a wife, but Korean females are having high standards or preferences..(not only korean females but women in general really like to live well and look or dress up luxuriously). why cant korean men do the same? i mean, many farmers etc. have money but they just live simply. it doesnt always mean that they married a non-korean because they’re below the standars…
i think you only watched one movie and you are now generalizing about the korean men or the culture as a whole… you’ve only watched one side of them..
well i cant change your mind about that but i want you to know that Koreans are also warm and loving people. For my stay here, i haven’t experienced discrimination yet from Koreans.. but I did from a fellow Pinoy…
I hope you get the chance to visit korea and really interact with the koreans. you might end up wanting to live here… many educated westerners do…
to derwent:
Thank you for your reply. I am in Korea already, and for a long time. Enough to learn many things about this society. I have discussed this topic to many korean academics (professors), journalists, professionals, my colleagues in the University, embassy people and ordinary Koreans alike. I have discussed these things to many Filipinas married to koreans. To Koreans married to filipinas, vietnamese, Indonesian etc. So If that is what your idea of generalizations, then so be it.
Now for my reply
“i know some Filipinas who married Korean men via matchmakers (via my CFO seminar), and weΓ’β¬β’ve kept in touch. itΓ’β¬β’s surprising to hear from them that their husbands really take care of them and the Korean families accept them with loving and open arms. some even dont need to lift a finger in their homes since the in-laws really take care of them.”– I know and i agree. But this is beside the point.
“they now also admit that theyΓ’β¬β’ve fallen in love, really hard, for their husbands.”– Im sure you know whats the meaning of statistically significant.
“itΓ’β¬β’s not that Koreans canΓ’β¬β’t afford a Korean for a wife, but Korean females are having high standards or preferences..(not only korean females but women in general really like to live well and look or dress up luxuriously). why cant korean men do the same? i mean, many farmers etc. have money but they just live simply. it doesnt always mean that they married a non-korean because theyΓ’β¬β’re below the standarsΓ’β¬Β¦”- — I will respect your opinion. But look at your sentences, you are the one making generalizations.
“i think you only watched one movie and you are now generalizing about the korean men or the culture as a wholeΓ’β¬Β¦ youΓ’β¬β’ve only watched one side of them..”– Im addicted to quality movies. I know what is real and what is not. I can assure you, ive seen more movies than you did, but never it affected what i said above.
“well i cant change your mind about that but i want you to know that Koreans are also warm and loving people. For my stay here, i havenΓ’β¬β’t experienced discrimination yet from Koreans.. but I did from a fellow PinoyΓ’β¬Β¦” – If you will search for my other posts, or other forums in this blog..you will learn more about what you’re saying. Keep on reading and learning. Go out and explore, the world is bigger than you think. In summary, your minute experience DOES NOT reflect the real thing nor the real world. Use social statistics.
“I hope you get the chance to visit korea and really interact with the koreans. you might end up wanting to live hereΓ’β¬Β¦ many educated westerners doΓ’β¬Β¦”– Thank you for the advice π But as ive said, im already here. Now, after a thousand interactions with many koreans, Now, do i want to live here? YES, because its so nice here and peaceful. The Korean society have their share of good and bad marks too like all other countries. BUT, please that is not the point. Korea is Korea. Love it or hate it.
If you will only read carefully, i am referring to a different issue. Here’s a summary only for you.
Korea as a country= Good country, but its not the issue.
Korean men in general= Great people, but its not the issue.
Korean society and their discrimination of foreigners= Debatable, but again its not the issue.
Korean men marrying women from 3rd world countries= Part of the issue.
Poverty, Money and Security as a major reason why Pinays marry Koreans= Yes, its the issue. (w exceptions)
Happy family after the union between Koreans and Filipinas= Debatable, but its not the issue.
The main point is i reacted to a previous remark. I dont really care what happens after the union. Some of them became happy while some not. Though i wish all of them will be happy. The major issue, is that what are the causes of these inter racial marriages from the perspective of the Korean groom and Pinay bride. Korean men can marry hot korean women or Americans, Europeans etc? But why Filipinas?
Filipinas can marry fellow filipinos but why koreans (who are most of the time older than them by a lot of years)? or other nationalities of rich countries like Japan, US, Europe? This is a case to case basis, but in general there is a common cause.
Ok?
another comment from THAT someone^^:
to: arvinsign
smile before u open..hehehe
shake before you start…(“,)
ive been reading…and i find it amusing..^^
youve made a ruckus about something i said..
but you admitted that there are exceptions…so, why then??
for those who are exceptions, please raise your hand(i could see them smiling proudly…wait, someone said earlier, there are a whole lot of them..but later, i learned that they are quite hard to find^^..which is which?^^)
and you are against arranged mixed-marriages with no solid foundation…wow..thanks for being a concerned citizen and a world-watcher (or kibitzer?^^)
and you said, it has something to do with POVERTY, MONEY & SECURITY…
if you are SO against it(coz i could hear your feet stomping & fist pounding heavily^^take it easy), why dont you provide answers to this issue?…can u give them RICHES, RESOURCES & STABILITY?you might have an answer for World Peace,too^^
you have been staying in korea for a long time??perhaps you are also married to a korean(girl) loser^^ who couldnt afford a korean hotshot? is that it??{can you provide the social statistics of filipinas who married other nationalities because it seems like you only have the grasped of reality?^^is marriage to koreans on top of the list??^^} oh…sorry…you mentioned about “collegues in university”…you must be an intellectual owl?pigeon? then(im not good at metaphors^^)…but why korea?? why didnt you fly to the US or the UK?-seats of much higher learning & earnings^^…don’t you think this is a much greater issue to be addressed upon? filipinos leaving the country to work abroad and serve(i thought slavery has been abolished years and years ago) foreigners??…POVERTY, MONEY & SECURITY^^….
are you burning your neurons from watching too many “quality” movies than everyone else did??tsk..tsk..we dont burn our neurons…if so, we can’t send signals to our brain thus causing us to be brain-dead^^..oh, that could explain the reason why^^…ah…must be another metaphor you are using^^
anyhow, thanks for admitting that you are obnoxious(i didnt say that, ok^^…)that truly isn’t a baloney^^…you are willing to be crucified??^^upside-down??..where??when??..ah…must be another metaphor,right^^…dont go into that, ok…you are not worth it^^
care for some bologna??^^
PS. i believe you dont generalize things because you are certainly not a (gentleman)& a general^^..hehehe….”peace on earth, goodwill to men”(and women,be it korean,filipino,vietnamese,indonesians…)
lizzie:
for those who are exceptions, please raise your hand(i could see them smiling proudlyΓ’β¬Β¦wait, someone said earlier, there are a whole lot of them..but later, i learned that they are quite hard to find^^..which is which?^^)…..WHEN THAT SOMEONE SAID THERE ARE A LOT MORE…I BELIEVE SHE WAS REFERRING TO FILIPINAS MARRIED TO SUCCESSFUL KOREAN MEN….IT DOESN’T PERTAIN TO THE EXCEPTIONS MENTIONED BY ARVINSIGN ABOUT OTHER FILIPINAS:
(Unless i see someone (married to a korean man) who is financially well (in the Philippines before the marriage), educated with a professional job and aesthetically pleasing filipina, and not forced by their parents or religion ( its a cult for me)……..I THINK THAT COMMENT REFERS TO THE “HARD TO FIND” EXCEPTIONS…..kkkkk
SORRY, LIZZIE I HOPE YOU NOW UNDERSTAND WHICH IS WHICH…OKAY?
to lizzie:
Dont take it too personal my dear, and dont be too sensitive. Its a tirade against opinions and not on anyone.
“wait, someone said earlier, there are a whole lot of them..but later, i learned that they are quite hard to find^^..which is which?^^)”– read carefully. I dont know where you got your ideas. You are obviously confused.
“and you said, it has something to do with POVERTY, MONEY & SECURITYΓ’β¬Β¦
if you are SO against it(coz i could hear your feet stomping & fist pounding heavily^^take it easy), why dont you provide answers to this issue?Γ’β¬Β¦can u give them RICHES, RESOURCES & STABILITY?you might have an answer for World Peace,too^^”— yes i said that. But does that mean if im against it, im obliged to provide solutions?? Each of us have so many complains about the world around us…Again, this is a forum. Besides im not the only one who has this perception.
“you have been staying in korea for a long time??perhaps you are also married to a korean(girl) loser^^ who couldnt afford a korean hotshot? is that it??{can you provide the social statistics of filipinas who married other nationalities because it seems like you only have the grasped of reality?^^is marriage to koreans on top of the list??^^} ohΓ’β¬Β¦sorryΓ’β¬Β¦you mentioned about Γ’β¬Εcollegues in universityΓ’β¬ΒΓ’β¬Β¦you must be an intellectual owl?pigeon? then(im not good at metaphors^^)Γ’β¬Β¦but why korea?? why didnt you fly to the US or the UK?-seats of much higher learning & earnings^^Γ’β¬Β¦donΓ’β¬β’t you think this is a much greater issue to be addressed upon? filipinos leaving the country to work abroad and serve(i thought slavery has been abolished years and years ago) foreigners??Γ’β¬Β¦POVERTY, MONEY & SECURITY^^Γ’β¬Β¦.”
— hmm you are funny. Please read some good books. Im not in the mood of bragging about myself. I am just a simple human being, and the issue is not about me. Besides this not personal..why are you so affected?.
Btw marriage to koreans, i already said i have nothing against it. Ill be very clear, since you have a problem interpreting things. What i am against are these:
a) Marriages via matchmaking agencies
b) ” ” religions (Moonies)
c) the rest…scroll up.
“are you burning your neurons from watching too many Γ’β¬ΕqualityΓ’β¬Β movies than everyone else did??tsk..tsk..we dont burn our neuronsΓ’β¬Β¦if so, we canΓ’β¬β’t send signals to our brain thus causing us to be brain-dead^^..oh, that could explain the reason why^^Γ’β¬Β¦ahΓ’β¬Β¦must be another metaphor you are using^^”– you got it right. Its a metaphor. And also you dont know how the brain works, so…read on and learn your basic biology.
“i believe you dont generalize things because you are certainly not a (gentleman)& a general^^..heheheΓ’β¬Β¦.Γ’β¬Βpeace on earth, goodwill to menΓ’β¬Β(and women,be it korean,filipino,vietnamese,indonesiansΓ’β¬Β¦)” — thats your opinion so ill just respect it. Peace
PS
For those reading, actually there is someone here (ill keep the name secret) who responded to me in a very positive way. I checked her blog, and i was amazed by her credentials, as well as how she met her korean bf. (now her husband). Its a really lovely love story. Im really happy for her, and she is one rare example of the exceptions i was talking about. Its a very different case indeed.
hey, betchay. you got an interesting topic here. hehehe. naaliw ako… peace to everyone!
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im happy maraming naaliw π
not bragging? ^^tsk..tsk…
“For my stay here, i havenΓ’β¬β’t experienced discrimination yet from Koreans.. but I did from a fellow PinoyΓ’β¬Β¦”
mahirap talaga pag masyado mataas ang pinag-aralan, nangmamaliit ng kapwa tao.mahrap pa lahi sa lahi.
please dont think like that. This is just a forum. Sit back and relax. We are all friends here. This is nothing personal. Im sorry im too harsh.
Hello anne, btw before i forgot…im neither bitter nor loveless (with a pinay gf) π π π that comment of yours made me smile
Im always a devils advocate, that’s why i love net forums.
Peace
oh, in the end, all obnoxious arvinsign wanted everyone to know is that he/she’s a very educated person, and that he/she works in the academic field? or whatever… what a shame!
obnoxious arvinsign you said “EMOTIONS DISTRACTS THE INTELLECT”…. I think its “emotion distractS the intellect” or “emotionS distract the intellect”…
i just hope your intellect keeps you warm and your emotions arent involved when you itched to write your long comments or whatever when someone else goes against your comment.
you want everyone to stick to the topic? then you should have just commented about the topic, not obnoxiously commenting about other’s comment.
you respect one’s opinion if you want them to respect yours too…
or if you want them to believe your educational background and your status, then act as one…
sabi nga ng matatanda, ang maingay na lata, walang laman… nothing between the ears… meron kase nagp-pretend lang na magaling talaga…
you try hard to sound so intelligent… so much that you look “….” already…
i think almost everyone here just spoke for those who cant even speak for themselves.
i think you’re too perfect you never committed a mistake at all all your life… that you dont realize how important it is to pick up yourself after a fall, rise up and improve… ikaw, nadulas na nga sa putikan kababayan mo, sinubsob mo pa…
hayaan nyo n c arvinsign…msyado intellectual at nakalimutan nang magpakatao…social issues…?…”Go out and explore, the world is bigger than you think.” do it yourself,,, nyahahaha…..
Don’t be too wise with your own opinion.
“Enough to learn many things about this society. I have discussed this topic to many korean academics (professors), journalists, professionals, my colleagues in the University, embassy people and ordinary Koreans alike. I have discussed these things to many Filipinas married to koreans. To Koreans married to filipinas, vietnamese, Indonesian etc.” “I dont really care what happens after the union.”
so, you are really concerned,huh?lol….
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN:(i guess it’s better this way, so that i wont be branded as being personal^^)
gosh, i wanted to review my Basic Biology on how the brain works..but i think it is better if someone from the academe can teach me about it to avoid confusion(again^^)…and i want it to be discussed in-depth…so how about dealing with it Physiologically?^^…i hope i can get an answer this time-a very good & thorough explanation -since this a forum,anyway^^…i’ll be waiting for your biologic and physiologic explanation,ok..anyway,what im asking is just very simple: HOW DOES THE BRAIN WORK??(I GUESS YOU LOVE FORUMS SO MUCH SO, CAN U ALSO TELL US HOW DOES THE HEART PUMP BLOOD?) .. and ah..i wont ask for concrete solutions regarding social issues,anymore since you’re no “make a wish foundation”^^
well, i just hope this academician’s brain is free from substance imbalances,neurofibrillary tangles,neuritic plaques, old infarcts and the like since i noted this academician to talk gibberish^^
am i deeply affected??is everyone affected?..hehehe..i couldnt see my cerebral friend(“we are friends here”)having a blunt affect either^^…so, who is terribly affected??^^
PS. it is really admirable not to brag about yourself when there is NOTHING to brag at all^^
fish,brother!!^^…
to arvinsign:
“Hello anne, btw before i forgotΓ’β¬Β¦im neither bitter nor loveless (with a pinay gf) π that comment of yours made me smile”
If that’s the case, well, I’m happy for you.
Im against everyone. haay.anyway…
to anne: Thanks. Thats the only positive reply from anyone i got so far :). Im wishing you a happy life
to kimchi: “oh, in the end, all obnoxious arvinsign wanted everyone to know is that he/sheΓ’β¬β’s a very educated person, and that he/she works in the academic field? or whateverΓ’β¬Β¦ what a shame!- tsk tsk. ok fine. Im a janitor in the academe.satisfied? joke. Theres no point in bragging here, we are all anonymous. Im anonymous and so are you. Besides it doesn’t matter who i am and what i do. It doesnt matter if im mayabang, sarcastic, humble, dumb, mayaman, mahirap or whatever. This is not my blog or FS account, this is not about me. This issue is known to everyone. This is a very sad fact. Maybe im one of the few who is brave enough to express and discuss it here. This subject seems to be a taboo, and that explains your reactions. Even if i change my character to a different one, or change my tone to a more subtle one, do you think that will change the truth about what im discussing??? im not the only one in this planet who knows that. The key here is action rather than denial. If people want me crucified, then fine. But still my opinion is my opinion, and this time my opinion is a socially accepted truth.
For the rest of your reaction..if that’s what you want to believe, then im happy that you are exercising your right and freedom to express your opinions (bec thats what im doing). Because that’s the point in here. However most of these are assumptions and off topic. ill be very happy if you will just provide some info about the issue and what to do about it. If you are either a case of A or B, im sorry it happened to you. How i wish all filipinas will have the free will to choose which one to marry and spend their life with without any outside pressure.
“sabi nga ng matatanda, ang maingay na lata, walang lamanΓ’β¬Β¦ nothing between the earsΓ’β¬Β¦ meron kase nagp-pretend lang na magaling talagaΓ’β¬Β¦” – there is someone here na tatamaan niang sentence na yan π
“ikaw, nadulas na nga sa putikan kababayan mo, sinubsob mo paΓ’β¬Β¦”- this i cant accept. However, if thats how you see it, then you are wrong. Its not like that. But i appreciate your advice π seriously, ill be very happy to discuss with you in a more subtle way (via email if you may wish), because i think you are sensible enough.
to hanz0204: ???. Im sarcastic i know. Thanks anyway.
to lizzie: “well, i just hope this academicianΓ’β¬β’s brain is free from substance imbalances,neurofibrillary tangles,neuritic plaques, old infarcts and the like since i noted this academician to talk gibberish^^”
— lizzie, read my reply to kimchi. 3rd paragraph
“HOW DOES THE BRAIN WORK??(I GUESS YOU LOVE FORUMS SO MUCH SO, CAN U ALSO TELL US HOW DOES THE HEART PUMP BLOOD?)” – read some good books. this is off topic. i will not bite on this one.
Hmmm im sure madami na naman naeentertain. π (Betchay, lalong sisikat blog mo) π
i know most of you find my way of writing offensive, even in the other topics here. Im too brutal and frank. But come to think of it, what im saying is right. Maybe you disagree with my way of expressing it, but its really difficult to please everyone.
Peace
this is an article relevant to the “topic”
http://www.rickross.com/reference/unif/unif331.html
http://www.gmanews.tv/story/73362/Rising-number-of-young-Pinays-marrying-elderly-Asians-triggers-alarm
-otherwise papalitan na ni betchay ng title yung topic to something about me π so lets just discuss this issue once again.
whew~ yey! i reached the bottom~ hehe π
kala ko nde na matatapos and it’s almost 4am :p
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nakalimutan ko….betch! just passing by from wendz~
lucky guy, poor gf…
to someone who has an “obstructing hydrocephalus”(for sure you know the meaning of this,right?for u were even recommending a lot of ur books for me to read^^…thanks, but no thanks^^):
hahahaha!!…certainly, you are like a fish which keeps on biting the bait!!^^…but you won’t bite a chunkier one for u know that you couldnt handle it^^hahaha..morever, it could lead into your “demise”^^..hahahahaha!!!do u remember this?- we can catch a fish by its mouth^^
now i’d like to take my bow…
and ah…next time, dont “eat” your own kind(though i know you will protest to this)…^^unless you think of urself as a predator fish…or worse than that-a shark^^…
have a happy life and help ur kind swim against life’s changing current^^
now, im letting you off the hook^^(coz i could see you gasping for air)…
wow! this is a great discussion..well, i will not express my opinion on this but rather ask questions specially those filipinas who are married to korean men. please enlighten me..^^
I have a korean bf right now, we are working in the same company but he is located in the HQ which is in korea and i’m located here in philippines. im working in the subsidiary of that korean company. We met each other when he had a business trip here in philippines. He is successful, only son, and 10 years older than me.
I am not that successful (well, because im just starting with my career..^^), but i can say that i have a great possibility to have a bright future..^^
As already mentioned here,most of filipina marries a korean men because of financial stability (i agree with that but i also agree that there’s a lot of exceptions, just like in my case..^^) If that is the impression of most people, my worry is what if that is also the impression of my bf?
I’ve been worrying about this since we started our relationship. I am not familiar with korean culture. That’s why eversince, im not asking anything from him or very hesitate to accept any gift from him because I don’t want him to think that I am after his money. Considering our age gap, i know most of people will have the first impression like this, but i swear I love this korean man.
That’s why I also want to know more about his culture.
I also have some conversations with a korean guy whom I met thru skype, and he mentioned to me about the social status of korean guys who are married to foreigners specially filipinas. Although he mentioned that there are also exceptions, these korean men usually experience social discrimination because they are married to foreigners, specially those who married on their 30s or 40s. Is that true? That they are discriminated because they cannot afford to marry a korean woman?
to moonlady:
Anne (who i just met and became friends with here) and I am married to korean men 10 years our senior and i assure you our husbands can afford to marry a korean woman if they wanted to. we met our husbands too in the philippines.
what’s important is the assurance from your bf of his true feelings. they dont like us asking them if do they look down on us? why would they court or love us in the first place if they do…
secondly, kahit san ka magpunta meron naman “stereotyping” talaga. they stereotype pinoys here, sa pinas we stereotype koreans too and do they care? hehe… so better brave it than hide or get scared. in the end, what’s important is he’s proud of you. and kayo naman magsasama.
i don’t know if there are married women here who didn’t pass through the CFO seminar but they’ll tell you there what to expect when you come here, the extreme conditions some here face, etc.. etc… but as you say, your bf is able naman so i think you wont have any problems here.
so what if you’re married to a korean? or what if you’re a filipina married to a korean? the people we know appreciate me and the manner how we met…
i appreciate our “lahi” for being ultimate survivors… i mean, kahit saan tayo magpunta, we can survive and definitely settle in and become productive…
i remember ate betchay saying they really dont look down of pinays here married to koreans and nasa tao rin naman yon. kase just like me, whenever i say “i’m shy, they are all koreans”— nagagalit asawa ko, kkkk… so i end up braving the lot and eventually naman nakakaya ko…
anyway im just new here too– just 3.5 months so sina ate betchay and ate jazz of Love in Asia makakatulong or makakapagbigay sayo more substantial advices…
to moonlady:
oh and you can ask Cheryle too of Surviving Korea. just check the list of pinoy bloggers here via ate Betchay’s “Filipinos in Korea”
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to jehan:
thanks for those words..
actually i really don’t mind anong iniisip ng ibang tao,I am much worried ano iniisip nya about me. Maybe I am just lacking self confidence because there are a lot of korean women who are prettier than me.hahaha! ang flawless pa nila! gosh, kainggit lang!..^^
i already mentioned to him before why he chose to love me and not a korean woman. and his answer is so simple: ” i don’t know”..
well, nakakainis lang na ganun lang sagot nya but maybe that is what he really feels, he doesn’t know WHY he loves me, he just know that he loves me…^^ (magulo ba?)
to moonlady:
i think that is one question men hate to answer? i remember reading that from somewhere, hehe… anyway, ako never naman ako naintimidate sa beauty nila or sa porma nila… sa kulay lang siguro, lalo na when we went to a jjimjilbang kkk… i was really surprised to see all the naked women walking here and there–with really fair and flawless skin… but eventually, i enjoyed the steam baths that i didn’t mind them looking at me– darker than them pero voluptuous naman, joke…
when you come here, you will be surprised that they have lots of insecurities too. i see a lot of women staring at my eyelids. maybe they’re thinking of whether i had it done or not… mahilo sila, joke… things like that…
physically, no need to worry. porma? di rin naman nagpapahuli ang pinoy sa fashion… siguro mahilig din lang sila talaga sa luxury goods or they like looking luxurious… or they like quality lives– it’s how i describe it, kkk but i know you will understand…
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to jehan:
haha! maybe, pero di nman sya nairritate sa kin when i ask him..^^
I have another question, liberated ba ang korean women?
Sa mga movies and series kasi na napanood ko, they seem to be so conservative. But then sabi ng bf ko they are all “open minded” that’s why ayaw nya sa korean. Most of them don’t know how to respect korean men, is that true?
OMG, im not working anymore. hahaha! wala na ko ginawa kundi mgbasa ng mga articles dito..hahaha!
to jehan:
You have mentioned that your husband is older than you. May I ask how did you adjust to him? I mean when it comes to maturity. I consider myself so immature sometimes. haha!
Can you please email me..I want to hear some advise from someone whose somewhat in the same situation like mine…^^
bluesilverain@yahoo.com
Thanks!
hi moonlady… okay, noted, i’ll do my best to email you when i get freetime from work…
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I don’t see why the government should get involved in educating families about foreign cultures at all. I mean, it should be common sense to most people. If I married a Filipina, or a Thai, or a Korean, I would most definitely try to learn about her culture. Are you saying that Koreans aren’t good at doing that?
hello i ahve a bf also who’s a korean i met him here in ph just 3 months ago hehehe biis noh..well i asked him “why instead of korean girl he choose a filipina” and here is his answer.. “i dont like korean girl because they are so materialistic..blablabla..and mas magaganda daw ang pinay kesa sa mga koreana..di ba bongga..
Γ’β¬Εi dont like korean girl because they are so materialistic..blablabla..and mas magaganda daw ang pinay kesa sa mga koreana..di ba bongga..”
— the use of the word “i dont like” is sometimes a way of boosting self esteem or cover the truth that maybe he cannot afford a korean wife, or worst korean women dont like him. So what are his choices then?
AFIK, if a guy really likes a woman, then the fact that the woman is lets say materialistic will no longer matter much more become a hindrance. At least in most cases.
“mas magaganda daw ang pinay kesa sa mga koreana..di ba bongga..”
— you know whats the truth. so its up to you. Anyone who “literally” believes that this reasoning is true in all its essence, is…………..
quoted from “tales from women marriage migrants” http://www.rickross.com/reference/unif/unif331.html
“…studies suggest that some reasons of women in marriage migration are due to economic rise from poverty; passageway to secure work; ROMANTIC LOVE; curiosity/desire to live in foreign countries; escape from family problems; and, catching up with their age.”
query:
do you have any idea as to how many percent do these women marry because of ROMANTIC LOVE?
what is ROMANTIC LOVE in this context by the way? to what extent do we consider the relationship an outcome of ROMANTIC LOVE?
i just wonder…
i mean “tales of women marriage migrants” π
“”do you have any idea as to how many percent do these women marry because of ROMANTIC LOVE?””
— Nobody likes statistics here. Trust me π
“”what is ROMANTIC LOVE in this context by the way? to what extent do we consider the relationship an outcome of ROMANTIC LOVE?””
—This is debatable. One way (there are other ways) probably is to assess the background of the pinay bride and the korean groom at a time prior to their union. Factors like personal wealth, level and standard of educational attainment, social, peer and family pressure, RELIGION, professional career, physical attractiveness (looks) etc have in one way or another affected their decision.
As ive said in my previous posts, cases where “love” as the reason for the marriage is rare. Although, love (that developed) after the marriage is common but thats a different story. Besides thats also common even in a filipino-filipina marriage.
Maybe, if the filipina for example is a successful young professional ( doctor, celebrity, lawyer, CPA, banker, university professor, businesswoman, scientist, engineer, architect, allied medical professional, executive etc. etc. etc.) way back in the Philippines and still decided to marry an outsider (as long as the age difference is not so huge and obvious) then i can say chances are its because of (romantic)love. The reason why i pointed out those jobs is because any woman holding a profession like those mentioned above ( or close to) will most likely have a bright future ahead of them, financially stable etc. hence will feel very secure in everything. Im sure they will choose to marry their own. Or maybe im wrong.
Its a case to case basis though.
Any korean guy who will state the same as above (posted by someone) as his reason why he chose a pinay instead of his own is a…….and for pinays who literally (in their heart) believe in that…wake up.
I’m getting married to a korean too..I guess relationship between spouses of different nationalities depends on individual’s up bringing and life style..In my case Im sure to have a good relationship even to my in laws to be, I guess love is one of the most important thing for relatioship to understand each culture and adaptation diba?anyway good luck to me and I hope u guys who are married to a Korean natonal is enjoying life..
Hi naku! Oh my God! Oh no! i’m also getting married to a korean soon….i ask God the signs if matutuloy…pag hindi ok…pg tuloy bahala na…..Please pay for me…P.S bakit may nagkakasal na ordinaryong tao, not a priest or a pastor eiter bakit sila authoriza magkasal????????legal ba e2????please help & give me a sort of advice…Thank you!
Hi edzzz! Actually, hindi kailangan ng pastor o priest para magpakasal sa Korea. Kailangan ninyo lang pumirma sa papel at magpa-rehistro at kayo’y kasal na. Meron naman na kinakasal kumpleto with reception pero hindi pinaparehistro ang kasal so hindi sila legal na kasal.
This may sound stupid, but just want to ask the experts here since I’m not so familiar with the Laws, is there any chances that you can legally marry a Korean here in Korea kahit na married ka sa Pinas but separated for long time already?
hello po to everyone…gusto ko po mag asawa ng koreano din kaso dko alam kung saan mkkakita…sana po matulungan nyo ako,,,d2 po ako s pinas now
bakit mo naman gusto mag-asawa ng koreano? kung mag-aasawa ka, pipili ka ng taong gusto mong makasama ng habang buhay hindi dahil sa lahi niya o sa estado niya sa buhay π
@ires: you make it sound so easy. and pagpapakasal ay hindi laro. you make it sound like it’s a game… hindi sya tulad ng pagpili ng sapatos na pag gusto mo ng heels, bibili ka ng heels…
i have been dating a korean guy for a year now,he lives in my country and av really fallen 4 him and he has too.do u think we stand a chance of marrying?
…..interesting. ^^